What’s your name?
Anonymous
Where you at?
Anonymous
When I think of you I get a rush
I wanna meet my Ms. Anonymous
I always get asked why I don’t write under my true name and tell where I live. Other bloggers do it and seemingly don’t have issues and yet I’ve made this choice. I’d really like for you to see what I really look like, I’m not a troll or anything so it’s not that at all.
For me the biggest reason and it’s probably obvious is that I write openly about sex and I have children. I’d like to protect my kids, who are teens from being teased about their mom’s stuff or being freaky or whatever. I think this has Captain Obvious written all over it. Duh.
The second reason is it could affect my dates either in a positive or negative way. I wrestle all the time if I should tell a person I’m dating that I might write about them. It varies on a case by case basis. Really, it can affect them in a negative way and discourage them if they didn’t want to be written about. It could have the complete opposite affect and they could want to be written about and stick around in my life longer.
Honestly, writing about someone I’m dating and knowing that they read can change what I want to say. I constantly wrestle with the ethics of writing about someone versus writing interesting content. I always lean on the side of representing someone fairly, almost to a fault. I just tell it like it is. Being anonymous helps protect the people I date also.
Very few friends know about what I do, it’s something I guard very closely, almost to a fault. Of the ones who do know, often they ask if I’ve written about them. It always strikes me funny when people ask me that who live the married suburban (yawn) life. I just want to say “Ya I write about your pork chops and your sassy red minivan all the time, who wouldn’t?”
I’ve connected with so many readers in a very personal way and I thank you for sharing yourselves with me. As I’ve written in the past, of my "real life" friends who do know very few read me or even are supporters of me doing this. I’d be lying if I said it doesn’t bother me a lot because it really does. However, I want you to know that I’ve grown close to many of you, hopefully more in the future. Ironically, you don’t know what I look like and yet we are very intimate. I thank you for sharing yourselves so generously with me.
I know sometimes it can be frustrating because you WANT to know what I look like and yet one of the strongest reasons I don’t reveal myself is so that I can keep being “undercover” and bring you more interesting posts.
There is a little bit of good news if you’re curious… I do have a picture that I’m getting ready to release that shows a glimpse of me. If you want to see it, send me (to: thesinglemomsdatingdiary@gmail.com) your email address and I’ll mail it to you first, ok? Smooches!!
Why you gotta be anonymous?
Baby I want you so much
Wanna hold, wanna feel your touch
Come fast girl I’m in a rush
Why you gotta be anonymous?
I wanna know, I gotta know
Your name, your name, your name
Why you gotta be anonymous?
Anonymous, Bobby Valentino
Smooches,
The Single Mom
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